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“How do I write an affirmation?” – My clients ask me this all the time.

Here’s the thing: It’s super simple and it can be anything you want it to be!

But I have a few tips in mind to make sure that your affirmation is serving you and raising your vibrations.

So here they are:

1. Make it a positive statement.

“Affirmation’ is talking about the ‘affirmative’, ergo a POSITIVE sentence. Try to avoid words like “don’t” “won’t” “can’t”. You have great awareness if you know what you don’t want, but even better awareness knowing what you DO want! If you’re stuck on the ‘don’ts’, reword the sentence to the complete opposite and see if it resonates!

i.e. “I don’t want toxic people in my life.” -> “I surround myself with healthy relationships that serve my wellbeing.”

2. Keep it in the present tense.

I often use affirmations when manifesting my desires or changing my mindset on a certain topic, so in order for me to feel the most success when using affirmations, I make sure they’re written and recited in the present tense. This trick puts you in that state of mind right now – not the future… not even the past. You don’t want to say, “I will be beautiful,” because that convinces your subconscious that your affirmation will always be in the future. Nor do you want to say, “I was so beautiful,” since it puts you in a state of “I once had it but now I don’t,” – sad isn’t it?

One of the keys to manifesting is to live in a state of joy. When you’re enjoying your present moment, that’s when the Universe makes its moves.

So, put yourself in that state of joy NOW.

“I am beautiful.”

3. Use ‘I am’ statements.

If it applies, use ‘I am’ statements. Your objective when using affirmations isn’t just to think more positively, but to become a positive person. You are being that which you desire. And you are not only one thing, you are an infinite number of things. You can say I am a daughter. I am a wife. I am a doctor. I am loved. I am rich. I am poor…. You get my point.

Neville Goddard mentions in “The Power of Awareness” that you must assume the feeling of that which you desire. You’re not just wishfully thinking about having something or being someone else. You must be it now. Using these ‘I am’ statements changes your mindset about who you are. You are embodying your desire. You are embodying the feeling of having that desire, whether tangible or not.

4. Make sure it resonates with you.

At the end of the day, if you’re using a quote from the Internet that you feel is aligned with your desire but doesn’t give you the chills, it’s probably not an affirmation that’ll stick. Ideally, you’d resonate with an affirmation so much that you would recite it in your head every time you saw the opposite occurrence in your life.

For example, if I think to myself “I can’t afford that,” the opposite affirmation would be “I can afford that,” but saying this just never really resonated with me. I never believed it. If I could afford it, I would buy it right now, wouldn’t I? It may work for some, however for me… not a chance.

So what do I say instead?

“I make $xx,xxx a month.” I feel into the feeling of the freedom I do have when I’m making $xx,xxx a month. This puts me in a really happy place and I get excited about all the things I can afford because I make $xx,xxx a month. 

So what are you waiting for! Start writing your own affirmations!


xoxo Alexis